Sunday, September 28, 2008

Failed pickups

I saw a very sexy young woman walking alone on the sidewalk. She looked like a young housewife who ventured outdoors for something, didn't bother to change, and hoped to get away with it because not much people was around. She was in shorts, not tight but brief, long legs on comfortable slippers.

I was in a rather new sporty car, casual suit for work. Instinctively I decided to try picking her up because of her legs. I did something like this, but not from a car, and the last time was a million years ago. It was a quiet neighborhood, nobody else was walking and the traffic was sparse. I don't know anybody there for a million miles.

So I stopped a few foot-steps in front of her, waiting for her to come to my passenger side window. She came up politely, straighten her legs and bent down so her head was closer to the window. I wished I was at her back side so much. Then I asked, "Do you need a ride?".

For the background, offering rides to strangers there happen all the time. I have seen that some girls do take up on the offers, but usually in pairs or groups.

She was surprised a bit. But what she did surprised me too. Find out at the end.
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I saw two young girls dressed for a night out, waiting at the bus stop. There were few people around and few traffic. I thought it was a sure thing they would take up my offer for a ride. Then it hit on me that I wasn't driving my own car. But I did it anyway. I have seen girls getting into barely working cars. But this car was different. The girls laughed cheerfully while shaking their heads a little. They aren't really laughing at me, but found the situation quite hilarious.

Find out here.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Worse is worse than bad. Finally, I know someone, who has a few kids, whose husband has just been deployed for many months. Most likely he is just a reservist. She couldn't avoid crying when breaking the news to us.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Confessions of a College Callgirl: "I guess that's why I made a lousy John, I really can't
be myself with strangers - I'm a shy movie geek with a
bad boy complex."

That would be a lousy date too, and a lousy first date because that have to be with relative strangers.
My Girlfriend is an Escort: Their Bad Types: "Once in a while G. comes across top-class idiots." This guy is usually too painful to read - I feel the pain. This is interesting. This reminded myself that I have started a reflection serious to recall interesting moments about the reactions of call girls on me.
Sex scams |SEXhobbyist: "”Clip Joints” (not to be confused with legitimate strip clubs however pricey they may be) are evil establishments set up for the sole purpose of swindling their customers out of money through high pressure sales techniques" I know nothing about that! I would think a clueless tourist would just get into any strip clubs, very American institutions as seen on TV the world over.
Ptr Leeds in Wonder Land: Recommended reading : Listen to Sex Workers.: "She clearly cites serious, government sponsored, research that shows that the industry is NOT saturated with underage and trafficked people. She then argues why it should not be pushed underground or criminalized." I think Spitzer is well qualified to understand this. Bringing him back will be great for the industry - those never paid for a prostitute nor being a prostitute will continue to make silly laws.
The Diary Of An English Courtesan
Ha, fake cockpit, big red button, green widget, do they turn you on?

Monday, September 15, 2008

Adventure 3

Nancy was born and raised locally, which was where I met her for outcall. She had a job probably in a department store, selling women clothing. Perhaps she worked in the back office, which required more education and having more stability than the front. The job shouldn't be too bad as she kept it all those years. She never skipped work, we always met during lunch, and on one occasion had to turn me down because she had to work later than usual that day.

She has neck length blond hair very smart for work. She is taller than me, has great legs even in pants. At the end of her legs she wear open toe sandals as many other women. I noticed her toes in her pictures and while I chatted with her in my hotel room for a good while before we started. I am always a leg man. I was admiring her legs while she made me feel very much at ease. I went further and further down, until I hit the toes. The rest is history, she was the first one whom I sucked, unpremeditated and uncontrollably. I think I understand oral fixation.

She has a great body too, with shoulders and all that. But her waist is too small and looked unnatural. Her breast is natural which is quite refreshing but needed to be fixed. She got very beautiful pictures, either the photographer worked closely with her or was in love with her. This was why I risked to book her. Everything was unusual about her, outcall only, evenings only, all pictures and no review, as she had all the signs of a ripoff. Being a part-timer explained it all, but rarely anybody else was a true part-timer in the area.

She always invited me for lunch after sex. I never did because I dreaded the attention. She turns head. She is taller and I look skinner with her around. No way I were to eat with her near where I work.

I wished I could see her in the evenings. I heard from reviews that she would wear short skirts and sexy dress for evening outcalls so no one could possibly turn her down at the door. She even had pink hair once, probably a wig or temporary coloring.

True to the part-timer spirit, she liked to please in her own terms, without worrying how many clients she had. I suppose she doesn't kiss. You don't need to ask these things if it wasn't on the menu. If it's YMMV, somehow you will go head to head, face to face, she won't mind kissing on her cheek, on the lips, and then maybe LFK to DFK to DJK. With girls such as her you will never find your head close to her, close enough to smell her hair, unless you deliberately try. Otherwise she seemed to like sex, liked to be eaten, like long blow jobs, which she carried out with a dental dam! It was great to watch too, but wished she just throw away that piece of dam thing. When I was done every time, I think she always needed more to finish the job, because I wasn't that great.

She looked mid to late 20's, but since she had an ora of maturity around her, she might be younger. Or maybe she hit 30 who looked young. I think she is a thinking girl, who didn't want to have a relationship with whoever available at the time. Her career wasn't that exciting and she needed sex. I think the highlight of her adventure is that she was called to a nursing home, did it with an old man, and he died on her. Possibly his buddies fixed him up for his last wish.

Adventures 2

Risking to sound like a broken record, I'll be talking about some of my other old friends again, though this time is about why they do it. ( Should broken record be taken out of the language? It's still commonly used I suppose, but who have a turn table anymore? Kids never see it. A CD can be broken but the effect is very different. Soon CD will be a thing of the past too.)

Emma was born and raised in America, until 16. It was a big deal when her family refused to trust her with a car. They sent her back to their family homeland instead. I think she might have a degree there. I don't know how long she had been a flight attendant, may be just a tmp job, but that was her last job when I met her. I think she was doing rather well. She might have quit her job or she got laid off.

Anyhow she had a brand new town house costing at least 300K or much more at the time. Maybe her family helped. Her family and siblings are doing well - she sent me a family photo. (Everything has a first time.) Maybe she got the down payment while escorting briefly in US. Maybe she had been escorting part-time for a while before she came here, plus her own savings. Maybe she was a mistress - she told me she had a boyfriend who took care of her, when she started to refuse my money. But it's hard to be a conventional mistress when she was a flight attendant. So it may just be a boyfriend with benefits.

As a side story it's complicated. She was hinting me to step up, but to what? To be a sugar daddy type I might end up paying her much more than hourly sessions. And since my wife was away I told her I was single. To be a real boyfriend I cannot keep it up for long. So I just kept paying her each time but tried to hang out as much as possible.

Her body is great and well kept. She has worldwide gym membership before she turned her 2nd bedroom into a gym. But she wasn't at all muscular, tall and slender, but not as skinny and delicate as other smaller girls. I never know how exactly her face looked like even though she sent me lots of her pictures showing her face. She always has makeup on, not thick, but she is hiding something that she is not confident of. Maybe she has one eye slightly larger than the other, that nobody will notice and nobody will care, but she feel obvious and has the compulsion to hide it from anybody else. Either it is this sort of imperfection, or she doesn't think she is pretty enough with her raw face. But she looks OK to me, and with the rest of her body it's a show off going out with her.

I felt most at ease with her going in and out of hotels. We do it a lot because we usually do something before or after sex. She is usually in smart casuals daytime, spending efforts to look good and individual, but not rely on expensive labels. Many girls do not look like hookers but the mismatch between us at the hotel lobby make it obvious - for example, too young, too small, too pretty, body too exaggerated. We look like a couple. Once we were at an upscale hotel with lots of people for a company Christmas party. In the lift all the couples were looking at us, yes including me, but in particular she in her cute jacket with her casual suit.

She did cam dating, high resolution, not 320 x 240 thumbnail types. She does look good on camera and she knows how to show her best. She once called me, fired up her webcam to show me her tight hot pants and tight T-shirts. She knows which side of her face is best so perhaps this is why she avoids less good looking angles of her even in real life. At some angles she does look like a movie and porn star. She told me she met a few guys via cam dating but obviously nothing came out of it, otherwise she wouldn't have that much time for me.

She likes sex, with other patrons too, in particular stiff cocks, and she knows how to prolong the stiffness without bursting. But she is too dramatic at times, like the sound track in a bad porn movie.

It's odd that I never kissed her. She once emailed me everyday to say good morning or every week to remind me of her. When I mentioned DFK she went silence. I didn't even kissed on her cheeks or lips. Her makeup isn't that thick, but there always seem to be some oil based (it shouldn't be but that's the look of it) moisturizer protecting her cheek. I don't think she likes to be seen with her makeup messed up, so we seldom have face to face time.

So it's very odd that she refused to take my money in the last days. Yes, we do have lip kisses for goodbye, but they are way too tame compared to her cock sucking. She's easy to be with, though she isn't much older than those that are difficult. We went places, fansy restaurants but not expensive. I dropped by her house for free lunch, and after work at her neighborhood starbuck. She never asked me to go shopping with her, which could cost a lot. Her house was cosy. I chased her in it, had sex, napped a little and watch barebone cable TV package together. I did feel the loneliness in her house if I were not there.

I don't know why she did it. Most likely because she knew a few other attendants who did it, and tried. If she did it for the down payment of her house, she shouldn't be able to get a mortage on her own - she wasn't doing much at the time we went out. If she managed to pay off the house, she wouldn't need to do it for the brief time I saw her. She has a modest car, but a new house, which set her apart from others I know.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Adventure

Escorting is all about money. But I forgot from my own experience that very often money isn't the main driver. I can't find better words to put it but the sense of adventure. Obviously they are not desperate for money. They are bored and instead of settling into a seemingly boring or uncertain life, they choose to "see the world" for sure with escorting as the "ticket". (I mean physical traveling is a small or irrelevant part of "see the world".)

Shortie may be about 5'3. She is well traveled with her parents, have lived in a few parts of the world like army brats, but in big constructions or something like that. She is 19, in college, which not much of her classmates attended classes. I don't think she excels in academics because of her nomadic background. Her face is actually below average, and there's not much to look at when she's wearing clothes. Her body is outstanding - not in the proportion department, but in the touch and feel department. Overall, I grew to like her very soon. She is quite picky about her clients (some restrictions). But for those who manage to see her, she would do a lot of things, even gave me pleasant surprises. It seems that her escort odometer has little mileage on it, but I think she listens and learns a lot. After the 1st shot, she would shower, come back, hold me, and patiently wait for the 2nd even if I fell asleep.

I don't think she has big plans for herself, just to finish college, not thinking that it will do her any good or any worse. I don't think she would settle for average Joe because she did actually see the world a bit - multi-lingual, even know a little arabic. I don't think exciting bad boys will go after her - she is a bit plain. I think she can't give up handsome young men (relatively speaking) yet at 19, and settle for mature men as boyfriends. So she is a bit of limbo on dating (who isn't?).

In her case it's easy to become a call girl. If she expresses interest or asks around a little, somebody will get to her, she will be given the chance to try it out, and that she can be a little picky about clients if she doesn't worry about the money. I think her clients are more exciting than having average joes as boyfriends. She likes sex. I've been told (not her) that it's a thrill when some total stranger is at the other side of the door, ready to have sex with you. And her clients have money.

Chanel and a few of her friends, I suppose they want rich boyfriends that they actually like - they are too pretty for average joes. Chanel's face could pass as the trophy 1st wife club, but her body isn't near model types, but outstanding for a young hooker, for a while. She can get back to great shape any time but she didn't bother. Some of her friends appeared in printed soft porns briefly, and can be counted as internet models as they have websites. Don't know how much they get from it at all, but certainly having a porn site inflate their escort rates. (unlike real porn stars who actually have videos out.) Looking back, their body is great, but I was never tempted because they aren't that pretty in the face, so it isn't worth it when I can have Chanel without costing an arm and a leg. Chanel cannot show her face in public so she settled for less.

So they don't have everything, either just rich boyfriends, or just boyfriends that they like, or none. In Chanel's case, she kept her rich boyfriend as an option. Once in a blue moon, she told me that she would be satisfied if she has someone to talk to, meaning not only that she didn't like her boyfriend much, but she also found it hard to talk to him. It's not that they don't talk to each other. It's the sort of talk with your best friend, you open your heart, and feel good. I also think that they were being played before, or seen someone else being played, making them less hopeful for Mr Right to turn up soon.

It's interesting how their adventures ended, or moving on to their next stage. If she is telling the truth for once, Chanel married and had a kid. Her boyfriend hanged on for too long, pressured her to get married or else he had to replace her. What I heard from the others were decreasing specials by word of mouth or via agents, while still maintaining their expensive high profile in their public websites. One had a kid, still worked, with very much revised rates, but still not popular, appeared briefly in 2nd rate internet porns. One worked in a totally different industry that can make use of her personal skills. On her work website, she had her pictures on which looked very professional. But she also had to very subtly stated that she had been an escort. She sure knows that many people will still remember her.

Joan, Chanel's buddy, was still working and seemed to be doing well. Joan used to look up to Chanel but seemed that the fortune was reversed. Joan is not as pretty but can easily replace Chanel when first I met them, indeed I did them both on separate occasions. The difference is, Joan doesn't seem to have problems with the job, while I doubt if Chanel ever has regulars. She never did it full time. She came out to work when she needed money, and then disappeared until next time. Then she worked even less and changed her strategy. Before she married she should have at most a few regulars that she could put up with, but only barely I suppose.

Last time I heard from Joan (via Chanel), her boyfriend finished college, got a decent entry level job. Obviously she was still working. They were going to get a brand new Z3. Maybe I may still run into her, she is still a long way from 30.

More adventures to come if I remember somebody else.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

It's so sweet. I refused to pay a cell phone company early termination fee. I changed to another carrier one month early by mistake. My old carrier refused to let me pay one more month, instead they want the termination fee. Or I have to rejoin them, being penalized by my new carrier. Actually I wouldn't lost any money but I didn't keep my cool - it was so illegal. I wanted to sort of picket them but I was busy. The hassled me for more than a year and fucked with my credit history. I didn't settle out of principle and rage. I saw the practice disappeared from the industry. Now I know why - it's really illegal and I'm going to share the class action settlement. Now they have to pay me a little and I may sue them back for hassling me.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

To be or not to be - an escort

Recently, there have been a few posts directly and indirectly about this topic, and some more will be coming too. This happens to be appropriate if I continue on the handbook (or escort 101) series - the beginning of it all. Not that I'm going to write a lot more, just that I don't want to do other things much today.

The so called prom-mis-cure-us (the spell checker can't help me here), is a good quality. Morally, you don't feel guilty about the job, that's quite necessary. With all the experience, you are not afraid of being hurt easily, and you know how to please. Experience is the same thing, but one needs time to acquire experience. If you are 19 and you have seen and done it all, I would say it's more of prom-mis-cure-us than experience.

If you are well qualified, you may not know that some newer girls are quite funny, regardless of age. You know some experienced and more delicate girls can lock you with their limbs and bodies so you couldn't charge much and couldn't do much damage. They will only open up when they feel that you are not too rough. This is the first things that newer girls learn, together with the overuse of lubrications, directly related to the size of your penis. They would rather do quickies, don't care if you come back or not.

I had a good girl Nikki, 19 year old, very juicy on a good day, but she preferred anal, and she charges extra for it of course. But I think she likes it, perhaps not with every (or all) patron(s). And of course Emma who have an oral fixation, which is not an urban legend, I can vouch for it. They like the job, at least while I'm in there.

Then you need a reason, which is of course the money. No matter how much you like sex, you don't need to be an escort to get a lot of it. We are talking about having a choice here. The saddest thing I heard is that mothers or daughters want to keep the whole family together. That is, to avoid social services taking away they children or siblings. It can be terrible in some areas, children are lost in the system, and at least one died. And of course the usual foster stories, for profit, for cheap domestic labour, for abuse and all of the above.

On the other extreme, I read somewhere recently, that I can't recall the origin, that someone dressed and accessarized like they have a trust fund, or ivory league graduates. Instead of having a trust fund, or graduated from ivory leagues, some went into escorting to get the same things. Personally I don't think it's worth it to sell sex in order to be somebody you are not. But then there's little difference than some poor girls, when they are 19, decide that they don't want to suffer any more, want to buy, say, an ipod, iphone or a working car, when they want to, like all their other peers. Who am I to judge?

In between, there's the usual keeping up with medical bills, mortgages, etc. Basically, moving down the social scale can be terrifying, because of the unknown, and that you are likely to loose your friends on the current scale. But I would think bankruptcy, moving to a small house, or renting isn't the end of the world. You can always make a comeback, probably easier than if you try to hang on to it no matter what, losing more on the way. And if you can't, get use to it, there's a whole new world down there. Of course if you are close to homeless or need food kitchens, that's a different story.

It's useless to say "don't do drugs". Many are driven into prostitution because of it in the first place. For social users, if you think there's such a thing, I pray for you. I hope to be a social smoker too. But either I chain smoke myself to death, or I don't touch it at all. Genetically, I will fall asleep before I get drunk.

For any reason, I hope you are on the top of it. Naturally, patrons buy happiness, or smile, if they can afford it, if only temporarily. If you are miserable to start with, it will likely be a fast downward spiral.

It's refreshing to see that exit strategies are often discussed. Ideally you have a career job and a side job to supplement your income. When you want to or forced to retire you have something to fall back on. But often it doesn't make sense when you work a lot less hours and earn a lot more on your side job. Earning your way through college is similar. Your 1st graduated job may be a lot worse money wise than your escort job. It's temping to go full time instead.

The happy situations I come across are summer jobs, in safer and/or a lot richer places other than your own. Or waiting for the occasional call after your day job, mostly out of town business travellers (without their wife). And of course some flight attendants, not that there are many escorts among them, but their job fits part-time escorting well.

If you escort full time, I would think when you have enough to retire, it's easier to go into personal investment or start your own business. You don't need somebody to employ you but still you need time to learn, and prepare for the risk, such as extra money to lose. Nowadays, a few years (in escorting) is a long time that your exit plans have to adapt. You don't want to unretire.

Of course looking for someone to support your retirement, like marriage. But well, you have read about difficult relationships. And gold digging for example, is best when you are at your prime, which is also the time you can earn the most - contradicting.

A main risk is addiction to money, or some would say lifestyle. You buy what you like. This is worse than credit card addiction, which I bet most people suffers. This addiction is what drive some from part time into full time, from with an exit strategy to without.

How long will you last? With modern technology, easily a decade or two physically. If you want to stay all natural, not even laser skin enhancement, you need to watch your window of opportunity. Catwalk models start younger and younger, because some girls look their best (slim model wise) at 16, some 12. Their prime time is short lived, if they start their escort job at legal age. On the other hand, some skinny girls for example, looks sexier after 30 with some meat on the bone.

I'm sure there are a lot more that could be said, but they are not in my head now.

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

$pread Blog � When Sex Workers Go Bad
Just to show that people in the sex industry can be ignorant about something in the sex industry. I don' t know the author but this is a classic rip-off technique started well before the internet and continues with the internet. I tried, all the ads in the phone books and printed classifed ads in major US cities are like this, spreading to Asia even. And before review sites, majority of online advertisement. Now a significant number of online advertisements. There is a book for girls on how to do it. There are some famous murder cases as a result of it, in my own county.
Trafficking Chevalier: "A newspaper series of articles about a trafficking/prostitution case in small town Eastern Iowa."

Finally a real case of trafficking, domestic. It reinforced my earlier post that fighting trafficking is like finding needle in a hay stack. All people in the case have quite unique circumstances, so you can say every case is unique and how many unique cases you can have? Or you can say all cases are similar, bad guys, and runaways. Anyway, you need rural places (urban no go areas) to lock up people without people noticing. And you need clients that are having nothing to lose types that cannot afford better things, less riskier things, and wouldn't want to lose the joints by keeping them secrets.
"Even though I never considered provider encounters to be 'dates' per se, I was still self-conscious about my appearance and wanted there to be some mutual attraction from the get-go to make the sex more passionate, despite the circumstances of it being a blind encounter."

I just reinstalled the blog this! button and having a good time clearing up my shared list and stared list on my google reader, with comments. It's well written but if you read it carefully, it doesn't make any sense for a player, whatever it means. The stereotype of ugly, old, fat, smelly, unattractive johns are overrated, but it's true. May be they are the minority. May be they are rich and well dressed, but still they can be ugly, old, fat, smelly, creepy, or plainly unattractive. For this reason I've never been to meet and greets, swinger clubs or johns' clubs. I don't need to be reminded of that.

What do you do if you are good looking? Get over it. You are not getting discounts or freebies by sending beautiful cock pictures. And since there are generous johns that are ugly, old, fat, smelly, creepy, or plainly unattractive, I would think call girls are much less sensitive about superficial looks than civilians. I would say it is a waste of time to work out hard to feel attractive to call girls. It would be easy to make a call girl feel at ease if you are clean, and reasonably fit and healthy. If you are that hot you will get attractive freebies, but I think working girls and civilians would have the same standards of giving out freebies, with working girls harder I think.

Even worse, if you are exceptional good looking, better say you are married, or your girl friend is away, or want something harmless that your SO wouldn't do, otherwise they will think that there must be something wrong about you, possibly dangerous.

Good looking has it's advantages though. You are more likely to get dinner dates without paying the full price I suppose. I was even being shown off to other clients. She made an excuse asking her client to drop her off at our meeting place. For some girls creating healthy competitions are healthy.

It's certainly good to feel the mutual attraction with working girls, but I'm saying that if you need to work out hard to stay in reasonable shape, it's not worth it. For many girls, you are just another piece of cock, which they would like to finish early and go home.
If we’re happy, we’re just the exceptions � Bound, Not Gagged: "The author speaks with Sven-Axel Mansson, a man who “had spent many years studying prostitutes in Sweden and argued that the desire of men for prostitutes had nothing to do with sexual “needs.” Rather, the drive is socially ordained: because men need to project their own sexual feelings onto a “dirty whore,” or because powerful men like Spitzer want to give up power for an hour or two.”"

I agree partially, that isn't just sex. How can you have sexual addition then? At least it's oversimplification. For some it includes maxing credit card additcion, which many of us also have.
Inspired to Blog: The glory of the out call: "A lot of girls would instantly say they would not stay, but when you have travelled thirty miles plus, and have to travel back the same mileage, you sometimes go through with it rather than cut your losses and retain your dignity"

This have to be classic, noticed by Nia too. But it goes both ways, and here this is the reason that fake pictures are so popular, LOL. I must admit that I didn't retain my dignity a few times ( at least ).
Inspired to Blog: What's all the fuss about?: "The old car? Gone to a new owner who will love it, just like I still do......"

Unusually sentimental for an escort, what do you think? When I was little, we moved for the first time. All the brothers went back to the old empty flat to camp for the last night. I don't know what happened to my wife, since our roots weren't that different. She didn't like to see my old pictures at tough times, with hairs like a rock star, or the young Blair, when I was proud of it. She also wanted to erase the memory of our 1st rental flat, with holes in the wall. For me it wasn't sad, we only stayed for less than a year I think before moving to a brand new house. Once in a blue moon when I was sentimental, and say something like the above, without appearing sentimental, she would ask, "what are you trying to say?".
Inspired to Blog: The Modus Operandi of the working girl: "If the punter becomes a regular and starts crossing boundaries then you do have the ultimate choice of saying NO next time he tries to make an appointment. What a shame when you have built up a rapport of sorts and feel safe with him.

Sometimes you may see a guy, who has a really good time, and those feelings extend both ways, simply for him to end the session abruptly to the point of rudeness, only asking questions such as 'can I use the bathroom', and then he is gone without so much as a thank you."

Crossing boundaries - I do try to ask for more if I'm regular, otherwise why would I keep seeing the same woman, not that I know her well anyway. Some girls kiss or do something else once you see her the 2nd time. Some are YMMV but I can't stand it if my mileage are less than the others, knowing that there's nothing particularly wrong about me. Ah, you can say we want more mileages as regulars. But I'm not thinking about crossing boundaries, whatever it means. I tried to probe Chanel as to what she didn't mind to do. If she doesn't like something we can find something else. Initially she didn't seem to understand. Instinctively, she rejects anything other than straight sex (multiple positions). Or wasting my time telling me that she would do it some other time, hoping that I forgot about it. We had a lot of miss-communications. I brought her sexy clothes she didn't wear just because it didn't fit and looked good on her. She didn't want me to touch her toes because it wasn't done (and cleaned) professional. She did enjoy it eventually. Good for her, and I doubt if anybody ever wanted to suck her toes again. For some reasons she didn't want me to suck her fingers, which would be kinky. I did it once and forgot about trying it again. She promised me to do toys, proper toys, but I still didn't know if she really meant it or trying to waste my time again.

Rude departure? - I didn't know that we have high expectation on us ;) I would think a quick premature exit is always welcomed? Really I would think going 10 min early is about 17% tips? Rolling over right after, asking for the bathroom, dress up fast and get out of the door without coming back to the bedroom to say goodbye - wouldn't that be fantastic? Normally I would stay in bed resting. Some would cuddle. Some would retire into the bathroom and I know that's it. When she cleaned up it may not be a good idea to hug or kiss goodbye - her dress may be delicate and so may be her lipsticks or make up.

Once a girl watched me putting back my clothes on. She asked if I always button up that quick. (not always) I LOL because I didn't realize that. Call that "professional" sickness. I don't spend time on routine non-pleasure things. The less time I spent away, the less is the suspicion.

Another time I regret that I had no choice but to say to the girl naked next to me in bed, "you can go now". I was late, got no time. I was trying to say it in a way that I was doing her a favor, by telling her that she could go early. It could well be the most romantic session, with a stranger that is. She got the message and get up to put on her clothes. She wasn't happy. Maybe because she asked for later dates in the same evening, subtly and then unmistakably. I had commitments, couldn't go whatever the price was, and ducked. I let her believed that I would be there for the week, but actually I would be flying the day after, with no more play time. Now she was certain that she got no dates, but not because I was leaving town. I felt she felt rejected. I gave her a good tip and she didn't response. But then again it may just be a trick. If she DFKed me goodbye I might have saved myself the tip if she was convincing. And I wouldn't double the good tip just to get her smile and feel good myself.
La Libertine's Salon: Article of Note: A Defense of Sex Tourism in Thailand: "It explodes assumptions about sex tourism, Thai women and Thai sex workers, mostly the female one, through Chanelle's work with Empower."

That's why I felt uncomfortable before getting there, flying long haul to BKK (only once). I have no problem flying long haul through Asian international gateways though. But thanks to my authentic LA outfit, sometimes I get those slipper welding sex tourist kids, or grumpy dirty old man, sitting next to me. Sorry that the ground crew didn't recognize my designer slippers. Though I heard that an American with designer slippers threatened to sue a 5 star restaurant, in Paris?! Terrible, the American.

If you really hate the authentic LA outfits, as one fellow blogger does, don't ever fly into LA from Asia and anywhere in summer.

It's interesting that people's idea about a nation seldom change, me included. If you don't at least look at the current GDP tables you will be surprised.
globeandmail.com: Sex addiction: A disorder or pseudoscience?
Worth reading, if you haven't. Don't want to quote who found this. Sorry, I meant I don't want to be seen as attacking someone else.
All back to, or going to, school now. All sort of ellite, semi ellite, or special classes, and not the money can buy types. It's the usual time for some perfect family appearance. Back in summer, we had some perfect family trips too.

May be finally my wife know how to treasure the things she has. A little late but still. This is related to call girls, but I will get to that in later posts. We had been to exotic islands, and exotic hotels within the islands that can only be reached via private boats. No, we didn't stay right there but we are the types that are welcomed everywhere. They pour enough fine sand to cover a whole bay, which I discovered has chest high clear water wherever you walk. It was a perfect beach but it meant nothing to me. I just went along. If now I could bring my kids there it would be memory of a life time for them. But kids are easy, it would be memory for a lifetime too if we went to the high Sierras. (Though they all have passports have frequent flyer accounts, not much point in it though.) We went to a picture perfect place for honeymoon too, but all she worried was her excursions. Imagine that? Excursions during honeymoon?

Whenever I hug my kids I want them never to grow up, time stands still. (I'm not thinking about me stop aging though.) On the other hand I wish they turn 18 tomorrow and can fend for themselves.

My thought is very different when my 1st kid was less than a month old. When I was changing diapers, I though sadly, "there goes my next 18 years". I was thinking my happy timing table of going out for side dishes would be greatly disrupted, and that I would be financially slaved to school fees and college funds and all that. I was so silly that I was thinking coming back to active player life after 18 years, not thinking that I would be too old by then. See? Everything is hooker related. Not that I wanted to retire from playering by then, but I was way more active at the time with multiple regulars.

Before kids I hoped my wife changed gradually, either changed from a part-time wife to a full-time wife, or quit altogether. By part-time wife I don' t mean that she cheats or something. It's not bad enough for me to quit - like some call girls, when she is good she is an angel. And I didn't want to lose half of the house. After kids, anything would be much more difficult. It's only a little sacrifice on my part to have a perfect family for them, if only for the short term.

If I can do it all over again, I would have kids when I'm fully ready, that means I would be financially sound for the next 20 years. No matter many couples have kids when they are so old, have no kids, or just adopt. The alternative is to have kids as young as possible. I have posted about the hot young single mother applying her lotions too close to me for my comfort. Both partners have more choices. And when your kids turn 18, you are still only in your 40's. Before that, you could at least able to feed them no matter what happens.

Funny my late father, in his 80's, still regret that he couldn't help out because of his health. Help out like getting a job. Some of his children aren't doing as well as the others, but all are old enough not needing the help of him in his 80's.

Thanks to my wife, we are a half way house, none of the above. She didn't want to have kids when she was young, and spent a lot of money on things like cars and travels. She just wanted kids when it's a good time go have one, and if she still didn't want kids, she felt she had to find something else to do, like getting a job.

On the bright side, I met a very attractive woman in her early 50's. (We all can have high hopes!) She can wear tight shirts and short skirts with her slim body. I looked at her legs! Her face didn't seem like it too, apart from the few wrinkles. I thought she is late 30's who looks old, or 40's who looked young. If she use more botox on her face nobody can tell. And I don't mean she is using botox. She has little make up on. She did say that she feel way better now than when she was in her 30's, raising three kids. Why would I hear all these, of course she was trying to do the couger thing - on me of course :-). Just to let me know so there would be no surprises later. Little did she knows I'm also approaching (slowly though ;) her so called half old club. I am hot for her anytime but it's not my nature to call her up and try the rest. I would rather call my "friends" to have a non complicted get together when the need arises. But if she contacts me I would say yes or anything she likes to hear.

My wife is even more brillant. A helper in the park asked my little kid, "where's your big sister?". My kid told the guy that she was his mother. If she started to have kids younger, I bet she would like to do the matching sister outfits, double dating, etc.

Once I told my favorite call girl (Chanel the professional lier) that her mother might be perfect for me. Seriously, as LV courtesan would say, why anyone want to be with some girls for the whole day? Chanel can be difficult, and I can imagine how hard it would be dating her, or anyone in their 20's for that matter. I though her mother will be perfect for dating if we can somehow start off on a fresh white sheet. She should be as attractive as Chanel if not more, and I had little problem being with older woman (30+) for any length of time. Her older sisters would be more than perfect but I would have no chance. When Chanel told me her mother was over 50, I was disappointed. But now I have different ideas. Of course it's not possible, as Chanel will not and can not introduce me to her mother. Just thinking how attractive she could be.