Monday, March 31, 2008


One benefit of being a regular is that when you need that somebody to cheer you up, she will be a phone call away. Without that somebody, I find this sexy video quite uplifting. If you missed this, I promise I won't link it ever again.

Saturday, March 08, 2008

The other contributions of sex workers

Isn't she cute? No, I've never tried her. She is just a soft porn star that I stumbled upon. Off topic.

It came to my attention that some sex workers (in my domain, that means prostitute, whores, escorts, etc) do not think they provide a useful service. I can hardly agree, even for those who nicknamed "are you done yet?".

A world without sex workers and gold diggers is a world of barter sex. We all know bartering is primitive. Money allows people otherwise aren't that good a catch to level the playing field. Capitalism will certainly fail if society lacks motivation. Sex drive can't be underestimated.

Maybe what I'm just trying to say is, if you are being paid, you are providing some useful service.

Sex work is not just sex. Some john may want to objectify women for a change, writing mean degrading reviews. For others it may be the only attitude they have for women, and so they don't get laid otherwise. Some may want to satisfy their pimp fantasy, testing the goods and writing down their opinion. They paid for it and for them, expressing their opinions are included in the price.

Yet others only write about and socialize with "the best". They found a new 5 star restaurant and have to brag about it - part of the "service" that they pay for.

On the bright side, it's not easy being a discussion/review board. The more successful ones, other than the grandfathers, have to be highly inflammable social networks. They need moderators on duty even on Sunday nights to keep the flames down. They have to be volunteers as nobody want to do this kind of shitty jobs.

Interestingly, this kind of I flame you, you ban me games are blown up to a much grander scale on the Internet. Craigslist use ghosting so that you don't know if your post is published, or rejected by bots. And recently they even need to resort to telephone verification in some sections. Youtube and Google have a hard time banning spams and copyright materials. The outcome may be the elimination of some popular features, just as they killed the discussion boards in TER. This already happened in youtube. You can no longer list videos by number of hits.

To me being invited to a golf game is torture. I rather do some exercise in a hotel. I was never a sportive person. In my youth, ball games that I was ever invited to are snookers and mixed basketballs. And thanks to Mrs Player, along with away from home exercises usually I have a good show of volume on the rubber container. My regular friend often checked before disposing of it if she was in a good mood.

Usually I leave the hotel room with a clear mind, recharged, and relaxed. Any bad experience just left me wanting more, plus perhaps a good story to tell.

Another off topic idea. Phone sex stories are just so much more interesting than webcams. I am thinking of editing a favorite porn movie with video only. Watch together with a phone sex worker. And then make up the sound track along the way. Phone sex with quality visuals. Will that work?

Wednesday, March 05, 2008

The voices for prostitution

B&G reported on a news article about johns, immediately I saw a woman's comment challenging them to come out of their anonymity and debate. But the fact is, the Internet is here and we can't turn back the clock. There are many sex worker blogs and they welcome debates, whereas anti-prostitution policies come up from nowhere. I mean I can't easily find somebody ordinary who is against prostitution and write about it.

I don't like sex worker much, the term that is. I'm not sure if phone sex is included in sex work. There is no sex involved. Stripping is not sex work, unless she has sex in the VIP room or go out with clients with compensation. I'm not picky on definitions either, but in US, the difference is, prostitution is illegal while other sex works are not.

I am happy to see some organized sex workers. But really this is hard. Johns are whores alike, each transaction could be the last. Many people are transients. I don't mean moving around. Many girls work a couple of month, a year or two. Organizing is like fund raising for building something in your college. It's only worthwhile if you send your kids to the same.

And if a girl isn't getting out any time soon, she is busy dealing with advertising, photo shots, and the dreaded message boards. And now maybe blogs too. These things have direct impact on their day to day earnings, while activism will take a lot longer.

I would say the voices for prostitution started in the early days of the Internet, when johns started to use message boards to do free product reviews for offline merchandise. Message boards and reviews were desperately needed as it was so easy to get ripped off. You may not like it, but johns are really pioneers. Now all major (and minor) online retailers allow comments and reviews right below their merchandise. There are also fake and irresponsible reviews for various reasons, but people learned to deal with it.

There are some good things coming out of message boards. In the US, people are less and less afraid. For me, I almost forget that it's illegal. In my previous blogs, I provide date place time and stage names for LE to verify. And it just take a subpoena to get lots of such evidence if you write a few reviews on TER and also paid for membership with your credit cards. And of course, a few johns were bored with all boards, got banned inevitably and went on to write blogs instead.

Message and review boards provide public statistics, that prostitution is popular, is big business, and johns can be everybody.

ps Coming to think of it, my reviews were blogs in disguise, that's why I was so unpopular and got banned eventually.