Monday, October 01, 2007

See you all at SAA

  1. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
  2. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
I'm sure 99.9% of people answers yes to both questions. (If you get less than two yes's, there are a lot more questions to make the numbers.) You are a potential sex addict and SAA advices you to attend their meetings to find out more.

"The essence of all addiction is the addicts' experience of powerlessness over a compulsive behavior, resulting in their lives becoming unmanageable." That would rule out smoking as an addiction.

I would say unmanageable include spending too much time, energy and money on the addiction. How much is too much? Life is about trade-offs. If you can still work productively and feed all your vices, I think that's not too bad.

A lot of emphasis is on masturbation and pornography. I doubt that's more severe than 2 coffee a day addiction. Both are free or almost free. I don't think you can spend too much time on the former, or else you are lucky. And if you spend a couple of hours on porn every day, you are still spending less than a lot of people on watching TV. These are very easy to cure. See some call girls.

Call girl addiction is expensive, perhaps next to drugs. However, I don't see that a call girl addict will do anything silly as a drug addict when he doesn't have the money. Yes, perhaps he is likely to spend all his savings, or living from pay check to pay check. But without money, I think he would probably masturbate.

So arguably, sex isn't that addictive. You can manage.

But sex is never about just the sex.

I vaguely remember reading a blog article about a guy named Diamond John, who was in his 50's, found dead by his roommate. He was said to have contributed a lot to the "community". My immediate reaction, brainless I would say, was that he is lonely, addicted to human touch rather than sex. Sex could be less than 50%, even much less.

To some the addiction is the affection I guess. Some use sex to exchange for it, typically women. Some buy it, typically men. I can understand some johns step out to endorse and defend not so attractive ladies. These guys for various reason that I wouldn't want to elaborate, cannot get convincing GFE from call girls in general.

Romance is similar. Try to be ultra romantic to a civilian all of a sudden. She would get the wrong ideas. Your girlfriend would be expecting a proposal, or dump you. Your wife would think you just cheated, or you want her ass. Call girls understand, it's a fantasy of the moment.

Then there is the power. Somebody ask you to simulate the shuttle re-entrance, but the conclusion must be safe. You get the blame. That's how things work. For a relatively minute amount of money you get somebody to screw. It's therapeutic. It's addictive. Unmanageable? No. Unless it's rape. Most don't rape.

Perhaps it's no more than girls play dolls, guys get their hands on dolls without other boys laughing. It's expensive toys but it's worth it.

I remembered some escorts worrying about the finances of their clients. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Since the beginning of time people lost a lot for love or the other sex, not call girls but well, it's temporary love too. Through ancient or modern history, successful courtesans make guys lost everything. Let them hand in their last dime for your time with a smile. But don't pick on the wrong guys. The right guys will not blame you. Just make it worth every of their penny.

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